How I Respond to Change

  

  

     Change is inevitable. No matter what we want, there will be times when we will have to face changes. Naturally humans reject change but change can  be good. It can help  bring us to a better place and make us a better person. Even bad changes are sometimes just rough roads paved to a better life.

For me, how I respond to change depends on what type of change it is. Small changes like a change in food prices don’t bother me much but what really effects me is when the change influences my connection to people. When I’m put in a new environment ,I have a fear of not being able to make new connections, of not being able to find people I can be comfortable with.

In my life, I have experienced moving states twice and both times I worried about not being able to make friends. When it comes to change, I tend to take a natural approach. I prefer to let things unfold by themselves and just go with the flow. The first time I moved to a different state, everything worked out by itself and I believe the change in that period of time played a big part in shaping the person I am today. I was quite young when I first moved states, so I’m sure that helped me adapt better.

The second time I moved states from Terengganu to Kelantan, I was 18 and I was much more reluctant to let go of the friends I had made in Terengganu. I was also  more reluctant to open up and form new friendships. At that moment in time when I was adapting to a new place, I deeply missed my friends. This time around, everything didn’t work out as naturally as it did the first time. It took a while to accept everything but gradually I grew used to life here. While I can’t say that this change was welcomed but I believe it made me a stronger person.

Every time I experience a big change in my life, I look back once the dust has settled and I see that I have become a changed person. Sometimes it’s a bad change and sometimes it’s a good one. Sometimes the change I experienced mould me into a better person and sometimes it doesn’t but one thing for sure is that to improve one must go through change. Just as Roy T. Bennett once said “It’s only after you’ve stepped outside your comfort zone that you begin to change, grow, and transform.”

In conclusion, while I can’t say I like change, I respond to change by accepting. Whether it be a bad or good change, I accept it and face it so that I can come out as an improved person.